Accepting A “No”

It isn’t easy for a child to hear a “no” when they want something, but it can be even harder for parents to say. 

This month’s goal: Teach your children that there is a positive value in not having everything we want, even when we can afford it. 

Pointers to cover: 

• The fallacy of “having it all.”
• Staying off the hedonic treadmill.
• Learning how to accept a “no” answer.
• Learning how to tell yourself “no.”
• Why even the richest people cannot, and should not, grant their children’s every wish.
  

Conversation starters 

For kids under age 9:

• Why do you think Mom and Dad sometimes tell you “no” when you ask for something?
• What can be wrong with having everything you want?
• Can you think of some things that Mom and Dad want (and can afford) but don’t buy?
  

For kids over age 9:

• Do you think people who own more things are happier than those who have only what they need and just some of their wants?
• Why is it hard to be denied what we want?
• What can be wrong with granting a child’s every wish if the child’s parents can afford it?
• Do you know anyone who can’t take a “no?”
• If you were a parent, how would you handle a child who constantly asks for new toys and gadgets?